I have interacted with the current wife of my former lover exactly one time, over email.

In the throes of chaos that was the protracted end of our relationship, I once dared point out the differences between she and I, likely to make myself feel better. He told me he was embarrassed by her baseness. Over time I assumed the comment was yet another manipulation, designed to encourage me to stay a little bit longer.
Perhaps it was.
But that doesn't change the fact she was exactly as I expected.